WEEK TWO

session three

Owning your truth is a large part of owning your voice. When you accept your truth, all of it, you can trust yourself to speak up for yourself. You can trust yourself to set clear boundaries, and communicate from a place of feeling safe and secure.

When traumatic events happen early in life, like sexual abuse or abandonment- this impacts our ability to feel safe communicating. These experiences are stored in the body’s memory, and when an experience triggers the feeling of being overpowered or not considered in any circumstance, our body responds as though we are experiencing that early trauma again. This is why it’s common for the body to go into fight, flight, freeze or fawn when we’re confronted with an opportunity to speak, set boundaries or request needs and desires.

These group healing sessions, and this entire course, is a safe space to reflect and honor the experiences you’ve had on this human journey. By revealing experiences that hold a strong emotional charge, you are beginning to move blocked energy and this is how we rewrite the narrative from victimhood consciousness to self empowerment. You are able to create for yourself your own safety, stability, and you are free to take up space.

Begin practicing this today, by asking those close to you to support you in the process of moving through challenging moments of not feeling heard, understood or welcomed to share your voice. This could look like saying to a person you trust…

“I’m in a voice activation course and I’m identifying that early life happenings have effected my ability to feel safe while communicating. Can we practice communicating while I’m looking out the window, and you’re still in the room? Can I ask your support for this?”

Feelings and old memories may surge when you finally have a safe container to feel your body while talking and staying in connection, while not in confrontation. Let yourself go there, and fall apart if needed. You are entrusting this person with a role of leadership. It’s okay to feel your feelings.

Not everyone knows how to ask for help, or can even identify when they are triggered. Not everyone has a practice of looking at their emotional blocks or unresolved traumas, and so they are unconscious when they are acting out. They are literally not present to the way that they are speaking and behaving. This is becuase when there is an aspect of your life that you’re unwilling to address, this aspect will continute to arise throughout yuor life until it creates a large enough impression that you’re unwilling to be blind to it anymore. What’s happening here is that your unconscious self is seeking healing by coming into consciousness.

You can take a role of leadership by recognizing when a person you are talking to is triggered into an earlier version of themselves that is acting out unresolved trauma. Recognize, who are you engaging with at this moment, is it the adult or is the wounded inner child? Identify who you’re talking to and speak to that aspect of them that is looking for resolution and healing. This will help you not take verbal confrontation personally, and lead by example so that they understand how to show up for you when you’re triggered. If you have the ability to hold loving presence, and really anchor deep into your body and the moment, they will be able to see themselves through your eyes. This is a miraculous reset. I’ve experienced it personally, and also held this space for others. By not shrinking or engaging, you are not playing out the role of the perpetuator of their trauma, and your acceptance and compassion of their expression, instead of judgement, will become a new felt experience in the face of their patterning.

You’ll find this knowledge and more woven into each of the lightening coaching session from Monday. While one person is sharing their personal experience, on an energetic level we can all relate to each of the stories shared here. By following along with the guided taps and changing the words to match your story, you’re participating in group healing. Even if you were on the call live, it always helps to watch the video again. A reminder, these sessions are confidential.

session four

Tantric Somatic Anger Ritual : Get into the Body

Emotion lives in our body, and if we don’t give it a healthy outlet, then it becomes stagnant energy. Emotion is energy in motion. If you don’t have a regular practice of expressing your full range of emotions, then your external reality will manifest experiences for to stimulate the emotion so that the energy can move. This can get messy…

You’ll find that yelling into your cupped palms, or full body slamming your pillow is an excellent outlet for all the pent up aggression that may not even be yours… truth is we inherent these emotions from our ancestors. Did you know that trauma can leave a chemical mark on a person’s genes, which can then be passed down to future generations? Our genetic makeup goes back about 9 generations. That means that your body is unconsciously responding and reacting to your environment as though it has experienced war, starvation, murder and rape. You can alter the mechanism by which the gene is expressed with somatic exercises, like singing, tapping and tantra. This is called epigenetic. Dr. Bruce Lipton is an expert in the field if you’d like to go deeper on the subject.

Here’s what we covered in today’s ritual:

• Shake your wrists, arms, legs, hips, head and whole body like a wild person on the dance floor. Do this every morning for 5 to 10 minutes after your daily ritual to reset the nervous system, get your blood moving, strengthen your muscles and bring your body back to life.

• Throw a fit: Lay on your back or your stomach and kick your legs and toss your arms like it’s just not fair. Use your words and give a voice to that time you lost your debit card in a foreign country, your car broke down on the way to an interview, or for the suppression of sentience life around the planet.

• Body slam your pillow: On your mattress, standing on your knees, lift your arms above your head holding a pillow and then full body slam it down. Alternatively, raise your arms above your head and slam your fists down onto a pillow on the bed. Get your rage out, punch the pillow, and feel your strength.

• Hip thrusts: With a pillow or two between your knees, thrust your hips and groin down hard and fast repeatedly onto the pillow. Feel your hips, your hamstrings, your core and genitalia as a part of this exercise. This is a powerful somatic movement to clear sexual trauma from your body’s memory. This is a safe space you’re creating for yourself to go into the story of being both the victim and the perpetrator.

• Give yourself time and space to come out of the healing container. Take a shower or bath, or head out into nature.